Tuesday, April 18, 2006

kyan 3mos na!

How your baby's growing: Is your baby strong enough to hold up his head now to see what's going on? Better joint flexibility allows many three-month-olds to wave and kick more forcefully, too, and to open their fingers and bring their hands together.

Chances are your little charmer is still bestowing smiles on everyone he meets this month, but he's getting pickier about the company he keeps. In large groups or with people he doesn't know very well, he may need some time to get comfortable.

The temporal lobe in your baby's brain — which handles hearing, language, and smell — is bustling with activity this month. Make the most of it by talking to your baby, playing music, and reading out loud.

How your life is changing: Moms, if you went back to work this month, you're probably feeling a mix of emotions. Guilt, excitement about returning to work, fatigue, fear, and worry are just some of the feelings that might be churning around inside you. For help, talk with other mothers in your shoes at the working moms bulletin board.

Dads, you may be feeling more connected to your baby now that he's older and more responsive. To help strengthen your growing closeness, try taking a bath together or reading your baby the sports page. For more ideas, see Dads' top tips on bonding with your baby.

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Steady now
This month, your baby may be able to lift his head and hold it for several moments, or even longer, while lying on his back. If sitting with support, he should be able to hold his head steady and erect. When he's on his stomach, you might see him lifting his head and chest as if he were doing mini-pushups. You can offer encouragement by sitting in front of him and dangling a toy.

Better arm, leg, and hand coordination
Your baby can now wave his arms and pump his legs. And as his hip and knee joints become more flexible, his kicks are getting stronger. Hold him upright with his feet on the floor and feel him push down. He can also bring both hands together and open his fingers, though he'll probably use a closed fist to bat at dangling objects. (Of course, swatting at a toy or other object is developmental progress in itself!) Encourage his eye-hand coordination by holding out a toy to see if he'll grasp it.

To sleep, perchance
At last, your baby's sleep patterns may start to settle down, giving you some rest. Many 3- to 4-month olds sleep for a six-hour stretch through the night, though others still wake for an occasional feeding. Some even take until their half birthday or later to sleep through, so don't get your hopes up yet!

Clear recognition of Mom and Dad
By 3 months, and probably earlier, your baby knows your face and has formed an attachment to you. Most likely he'll still smile at strangers, especially when they look him straight in the eye and coo or talk to him. But he's beginning to sort out who's who in his life, and he definitely prefers some people over others.

Your baby's parietal lobe, the part of the brain that governs his hand-eye coordination and allows him to recognize objects, is developing rapidly now. And his temporal lobe, which assists with hearing, language, and smell, has also become more receptive and active. So when your baby hears your voice these days, he may look directly at you and start gurgling or trying to talk back.

Reading 101
Reading to your child, even at this young age, will pay off. Hearing you read helps your baby develop an ear for the cadence of language. In fact, varying the pitch of your voice, using accents, singing, and vocalizing make the aural connection between you and your baby that much more stimulating. But don't worry if he looks the other way or loses concentration while you're reading. Just try something else, or give him time to rest. Take your cue from his responses and interest.

There are plenty of good books to read to your baby — such as Goodnight Moon, The Baby's Bedtime Book, and Fuzzy Yellow Duckling. Choose board books with large, bright pictures and simple text — or even wordless books, such as Picnic or The Bear and the Fly, with pictures for you to narrate.

At this point you needn't be slavish to age guidelines. Books designed for older children can captivate a baby if they have clear, crisp images and bright colors. Or you can even read poetry written for adult ears — Samuel Coleridge's Kubla Khan, for instance. What your baby doesn't understand will still delight him (and you) with its musicality.

Early language development
Recent research links higher intelligence to how many words a child hears in the first year of life, so verbal stimulation is especially important right now. Set a sound foundation by exposing your baby to a variety of words and sounds. Talk about your surroundings when you take him for a walk, and point to and identify objects as you roam the grocery store aisles. Your baby can't repeat these words yet, but he's storing all the information in his rapidly developing memory.

If your home is bilingual, your baby will benefit from hearing both languages spoken regularly. If you'd like him to learn more than one language, try to repeat each phrase in both languages, or have each parent speak to him in a different language.

Touchy feely
Stimulate your baby's sense of touch with a variety of materials — such as fur, tissue, felt, and terrycloth. And look for books, like Pat the Bunny, that make touching a part of the reading experience. Touch — the feel of a gentle breeze or a massage, being carried on your hip, or kissed on the nose — is a powerful way to relax or engage your baby. Iit may even increase his altertness and attention span.

Beginning to interact with others
Your child is set on "receive," drawing conclusions about the world around him. By now, he may respond to his face in the mirror by smiling (babies love looking at themselves), and he may stop sucking his thumb or bottle to listen to your voice. By cooing or making noises at him, and by describing even the most mundane household chore, you're not only connecting with him but also encouraging him to express himself. Even with others, your baby is becoming more animated and engaging — flashing smiles, oohing, and cooing. The fun has really begun. When you're with friends, keep your baby nearby so he can hear the richness of human interaction.

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WHOA, an bilis na db. 3mos na an baby kyan. mejo bumabait na cia and nagiging naughty na then at the same time. before sia mag 3mos, aba! an likot na matulog na lolo mo, nagising kme in the middle of the night dhil wala cia sa gitna nmen ni dee.. aun at nasa paanan ko na pala.

he had his first diarrhea na den and his "sinat"... that made us worried tlaga pro strong tlaga an baby ko... lang dating mga sakit sa kanya.. masigla pa den and lakas mag milk.

black saturday he had his first summer outing.. hehe. sarap nag ligo nag baby and paswim2 pa.

his 3rd month bday naman, we celebrated it with the whole family.. mum,ate, mark, france and the yaya went here kina oma and nag handa lang ng konti.. havta go, sa sobrang kakulitan ni kyan d na pede mahabang time sa other things...

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Wednesday, March 15, 2006

funny moments with kyan

"mummy put on my mittens already, stop chatting with dee and oma!"



my adorable 2 month old

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Friday, March 10, 2006

my 2 month old

The first real smiles
This month your baby will reward all your loving care with a beaming, toothless, just-for-you smile. This will probably disarm you, even if you've just had your worst night yet. For Ron Heckman, a new father in Piedmont, California, that first smile from his 6-week-old daughter, Hadley, brought tears to his eyes. "It was a lousy day at work," he recalls. "I was sleep-deprived and the commute traffic that day was incredibly thick. When I finally got home and my wife handed me the baby, who looked straight at me and smiled this gorgeous all-gums grin, I remember thinking, 'She knows me' — and nothing else mattered."


Kyan's first real smile while were playing clap your hands!

A growing preference for complex designs
By 2 months of age your baby will begin to move beyond his early preferences for two-tone objects toward more detailed and complicated designs, colors, and shapes. Show your baby — and let him touch — a wider variety of objects now. Good choices include plastic cookie molds and soft balls.

Sleeping for longer chunks of time
If your baby is sleeping through the night now, you're one of the lucky few. Most babies still want a middle-of-the-night feeding at 2 months. But the good news is, he should be sleeping and staying awake for longer intervals instead of cycling back and forth so much. Most 2-month-olds have two to four long sleep periods and as many as ten hours a day when they're awake.

Movements are less jerky
He's no Fred Astaire yet, but your little guy is now coordinating his movements better. You'll notice that the jerky arm and leg movements of his newborn days have given way to smoother, more circular motions. While in the early days grabbing was mostly involuntary and instinctual, your 2-month-old is also able to purposely grab objects now.


his 2nd month bday celebration..

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Friday, March 03, 2006

on being a mother

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie.


She said, "I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with
you."



The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three
children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.



"What's wrong, are you well," she asked?




My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a
late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.



"I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you," I responded.

"Just the two of us." She thought about it for a moment, and then said, "I would like that very much."



That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed
that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our
date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's was.



"I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed," she said, as she got into the car. "They can't wait to hear about our meeting." We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy.


My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way
through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom
sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. "It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small," she said. Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I
responded.



During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation, nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so
much that we missed the movie.



As we arrived at her house later, she said, "I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you." I agreed.



"How was your dinner date?" asked my wife when I got home. "Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined," I answered.



A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her.



Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife.
You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son."



At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: "I LOVE YOU" and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till " some other time."



Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after you've had a baby.... somebody doesn't know that once you're a mother, "normal" is
history.

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Tuesday, February 28, 2006

update on my growth

7 weeks



Head's up!
Your baby's neck muscles are getting stronger, which allows him to hold up his head for short periods. He can hold it up for a few moments while lying on his stomach, for example, and he may even be able to turn it from side to side. He may be able to hold it up when he's in a car seat or front carrier, especially if he has lots of support and you use special baby headrests designed to help him in those situations.

Exploring extremities
At birth, your baby had no idea his arms and legs were attached to him. That's all changing now as he starts exploring his body. The parts he'll discover first are his hands and feet. You can encourage his interest by holding his arms above his head and asking, "How big is baby?" or by reciting "This Little Piggy" and counting his toes.

Learning to soothe himself
Babies love to suck. They need to suck. In fact, you may have discovered that a pacifier works wonders in helping your baby calm himself now. And when his binky's not around, he may even be able to find his thumb or fingers to pacify himself.

Look who's baby-talking now
Your 1-month-old may gurgle, coo, grunt, and hum to express his feelings now. A few babies also begin squealing and laughing. Be sure to coo and gurgle back, and talk to him face-to-face. He'll enjoy holding your gaze now. If you have things to do, though, he'll still enjoy hearing your voice from across the room.

Even though your baby has been able to recognize you since he was just a few days old, by the end of this month he may be able to show it. About half of all babies this age begin to exhibit an obvious recognition of their parents. (They react differently to mom and dad than they do to strangers.) Your baby may quiet down and make eye contact with you, or he may smile when he sees you.

Music appreciation
Now that your baby is awake for longer periods during the day, you can use these times to stimulate his sensory development. Try singing your favorite lullabies or playing tapes or discs of childsong troubadours such as Raffi, Linda Rondstadt, and Peter, Paul, and Mary. But you needn't restrict his listening fare to children's' songs. Fill the house with the sounds of music — from Talking Heads to Mozart — and watch as waves of pleasure (expressed in coos, lip smacks, and spasmodic movements of arms and legs) pass through your child. The sound of wind chimes or a ticking clock will also amuse your baby. The more varied the offerings, the richer the impact. Inevitably, you'll see your child react more pleasurably to one selection over another as he begins to develop preferences.

Eyes can track objects now
With both eyes now able to focus, your baby can track a moving object, something he may have been able to do for only brief periods since birth. The stores are packed with developmental toys, but you'll do just as well with everyday objects. Pass a rattle or a bright plastic ladle from side to side in front of him. Then try moving it up and down. This should attract your baby's attention, though he probably won't be able to smoothly follow vertical motion for about three months. You can also play eyes-to-eyes by moving very close to his face and slowly nodding your head from side to side. Often his eyes will lock onto yours.

Is my baby developing normally?
Remember, each baby is unique and meets cognitive milestones at his own pace. These are simply guidelines to what your baby has the potential to accomplish — if not right now, then shortly.

If your baby was born prematurely, keep in mind that he'll almost always need a bit more time before he can do the same things as other children his chronological age. That's why most preemies are given two ages by their pediatricians — their chronological age (calculated from their birthday) and their adjusted age (calculated from their due date). Doctors generally assess a preterm child's development from the time he should have been born and evaluate his skills accordingly.


6 weeks



How your baby's growing: By now roughly half of all babies recognize their parents and openly prefer Mom and Dad to strangers. Your baby may actually smile when she sees you and coo and kick with pleasure.

In general, she's become more sensitive to her surroundings. If you ring a bell, she'll respond in some way by starting, crying, or even quieting. She's beginning to take a real interest in music, whether it's you singing to her or classical music coming from the radio. She notices things more acutely,too — staring intently at a plush toy, for instance, placed in front of her. For parents, it's a gratifying experience, especially coming as it does after weeks of diapering, feeding, bathing, kissing, and cuddling with little response.

How your life is changing: One word — exhaustion. The initial rush of adrenalin that carried you through the first few weeks has probably worn off by now, and your life may seem like an endless chain of diaper changes, feedings, and soothing-fussy-baby sessions. And yet, deliverance — at least from the chaotic nature of these days — is ahead. Your baby may have started napping at roughly the same time every day. And even if she hasn't, it's only a matter of weeks before a pattern, or routine, emerges. In the meantime, check out our strategies from other new mothers on how to stay sane during these sleep-deprived times.

5 weeks



How your baby's growing: That smile lighting up your baby's face — and your own — may be the real thing. You can tell it's a social smile (as opposed to gas) if he uses his entire face to tell you he's pleased. Though babies will smile only when they're ready, you can get yours there faster by cuddling, tickling, and playing with him.

By this time your baby can focus both eyes on an object and has begun to prefer more complex designs, colors, and shapes. He can track movement, which means that a simple rattle passed in front of his face can transfix him. Or you can play eyes-to-eyes — move very close to his face and slowly nod your head from side to side. He'll follow you raptly, and you may even get another smile, or chuckle, out of him.

How your life is changing:Your healthcare provider says you're ready to have sex again. But are you? Or maybe you're ready, but your partner isn't. You're not the only one wondering whether it'll ever be the same. Chat about sex and romance after baby with other BabyCenter members, or go to our bulletin boards to discuss your changing relationship as new parents.

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thank you mama czai

kyan enjoying his rocker.. a hand me down from baby cj. future barkada ni gab. hehe.



i just hate the pacifier though.

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Wednesday, February 22, 2006

motherhood

i enjoy reading this post.. take a peek on http://rosebell.multiply.com/journal/item/3

-You count the sprinkles on each kids cupcake to make sure they’re equal.
-You have time to shave only one leg at a time.
-You hide in the bathroom to be alone.
-You find yourself cutting your husbands sandwiches into cute shapes.
-You’ve mastered the art of placing large quantities of different foods on a plate without anything touching.
-Your child insists that you read 'Once Upon a Potty' out loud in a crowded area and you do it.
-You hope ketchup is a vegetable, since it is the only one your child eats.
-You hire a sitter because you haven’t been out with your husband in ages, then spend half the night checking up on the kids.

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Monday, February 13, 2006

naisip ko lang

pinuyat ulit ako ni gabriel kanina. ala sais na siya nakatulog. tanghali na tuloy ako nagising at siya hangang ngayon tulog. nakakatuwa. magkatabi na kami matulog ngayon. mahirap kasi kapag sa duyan. naiistorbo tulog nia pag dedede at papalitan ng "diaper". mamaya sa las piñas na kami. sa isang lingo na kami babalik dito kina oma. ganun an magiging "set up" para walang lola ang magtatampo at parehong mapapalapit kay gabriel.

mahirap talaga maging ina. ika nga sa patalastas masarap maging ina pero mahirap. totoo rin na ngayon mo "maappreciate" an sarili mong ina pag nagkaanak ka na. sa akin madami ng nabago. hindi ko na iniisip sarili ko, inuuna ko muna si kyan. pag gising sa umaga mukha na niya an pagmamasdan ko. iniisip kung mapapalaki ko siya ng maayos. gusto ko maging isang mabuting tao si gabriel at may takot sa Diyos. pangarap ko sa kanya ang makatapos at magkaroon ng magandang buhay. matagal pa yun, sa ngayon ang lagi kong pinagdarasal ay ang "saftey at good health" nila ng daddy niya.

totoo den na mas pipiliin ko na ako na lang ang masaktan huwag lang siya at kung may masakit sa kanya ay doble ang sakit na mararamdaman ko. ngayon nagdarasal na ko gabi-gabi. hindi na ako nakakalimot sa Diyos simula nga dumating si gabriel. Ipinapasa Diyos ko na den lahat at lubusan akong nagpapasalamat sa kanya.

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